the mean jar
I started to write a post this week about Holden's improved behavior as of late, but--expectedly--as soon as I wrote it, her good behavior crapped the bed. Le sigh.
But yeah, up until Thursday night, Holden had been almost like a new kid--polite, helpful, sharing with her brother, eating her dinner, etc.
Part of the improvement could no doubt be attributed to the new preschool she started a month or so ago. I've also been a bit more diligent about explaining behavior expectations to her before we go to a new place or embark on a new activity.
But about two weeks ago, we also started using these behavior jars. These were a tip given to me by another parent in the "Raising a Toddler" workshops I took this summer. Basically you have two jars--one for "good" behavior and one for "bad" behavior--and you place beads/tokens/etc. in each jar accordingly as needed.
For me, I realized that I needed to do a better job of praising positive behavior, rather than always pointing the negative behavior, so these jars have provided an opportunity to do that. To be honest though, "a bead in the mean jar" is proving to be a pretty effective threat as well.
Living with a threenager continues to be a struggle, but it seems like we're figuring it out bit by bit. Let's call it "two steps forward, one step back."